Debbie Davidson Coaching

Fertility Coaching | Miscarriage Support | 1:1 online calls

Real support for the emotions of Trying To Conceive

Whether you are trying to conceive for the first time, recovering after miscarriage,
or trying to add to your family...

Because it's a lonely journey if you don't have any support

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About you

Does any of this sound familiar?

You have a busy career that you've worked very hard at, and so does your equally busy partner. You've decided to try for a baby, and so you've done a lot of research into the health side of things. You're tracking your ovulation and you're making a real effort to eat the right things and do the right amount of exercise, and have sex at the right time.

In the rest of your life you know that you can just work harder or concentrate more to achieve your goal.

However, with fertility, you feel like you're trying everything but not getting any different results.
This is now impacting your thoughts at all times of day and night - it's like a running dialogue in the background. Then there's the constant monitoring of your body, hoping that any twinge could be a sign - only to have the grief of a period starting hit you like a ton of bricks.

You've not yet fully confronted your fears around the possibility of medication or IVF because your imagination excels at worst-case-scenario thinking. Or, you're in limbo whilst you wait for your invitation for further medical support.

You feel isolated and often lonely - sometimes connecting with other women who are trying to conceive in online communities, but also aware that the forums can descend quickly into doom and gloom if left unchecked.

Occasionally, an unexpected pregnancy announcement sends you spiralling and fighting with the jealousy that you wish you didn't feel.

Very few people around you know how tough you are finding this chapter of your life. Even your partner might not fully understand, as the dialogue around fertility is so skewed to it being a 'woman's issue'. You hope that you can 'just keep going' and it will happen someday, but you're also very afraid of the possibility that it might not.

It's a tough place to be. I want to help you to shift your future and get to where you want to be.

If any of the above sounded familiar, then please click below to book a chat with me.

About Me

Hi, I'm Debbie. Welcome to my website, I'm so glad you're here.

During my time of trying to conceive our first child, I found each month and the hoping, trying, and waiting really affected the way I thought and the way I talked to myself. The cycle became a really negative experience really quickly, but I couldn't find the words to articulate what I was going through or even to know how or where to look for help.

Then we did conceive, but miscarried. This shut down my ability to cope with and understand what I was going through even more. As I shared last year on Instagram, I didn't even understand that I was grieving. I didn't know that grieving was 'allowed' around miscarriage. I lost myself for more than 6 months, until I finally had the conversation with my wonderful sister that started to change things. Having someone to put words to what was going on for me was transformative. To know that I could feel safe enough to share what was actually in my head , and therefore to separate the truth from the fear, helped my mind and my body to get 'un-stuck', and we finally had our first daughter in 2018.

When we decided to try and add to our family again, the fear returned. I worried I would fall back into the stress and helplessness of before. But this time was different—I had completed my One of Many Coaching Certification and was also receiving 1:1 coaching. I had a regular timeslot with someone who would help me to safely release what was coming up, and also to help weave all that I had learned as a Coach into my own journey.

I am still so grateful to those women who (virtually) held me on the months when I thought it had happened, but hadn't, and then when we conceived but miscarried again. By scheduling that emotional support, I made sure that I had that time for myself, and could be honest and open with someone who was dedicating that hour to me, with no distractions.

This mean that I was able to speak openly with my family, feel more in control, and find my way to grieve. Incredibly, we conceived our second daughter just a month after that second miscarriage.

My own experiences have taught me that compassionate 1:1 support can transform a woman's fertility journey. I want you to know that I've struggled AND that I've come through the other side with my husband and girls, and that I truly want a joyful outcome for you too.

Speak soon,

Debbie x

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My Coaching Courses

Freebie!

Start here - my free download of the tool that my clients say changes their lives. All you need is pen and paper.

1:1 Coaching

A 12 week course to maximise your chances of conceiving.

Rollercoaster Course

My 'Lunch and Learn' course for workplaces

What do past clients think?

I’m delighted that we did get pregnant. You really helped us get there. It’s such a whirlwind of emotions and you can easily spiral. You kept me level-headed and gave me the tools I needed. Thank you, really, because we are ever so fortunate that it did happen for us. It was just a matter of waiting a little bit longer, and it really helped me during that time when I didn’t know if it was going to happen. I can’t recommend you enough. You’ve been so supportive and really helped on my journey. What you offer is so different from what you get from family and friends. You’re so adaptable to what the individual needs. I felt there was no pressure, but at the same time it really helped me along the journey. I can’t thank you enough.

Jess
Fertility Coaching (now Mum of 2)

Debbie has been a great support during my sessions. She remained understanding, supportive and empathetic which has enabled me to be open and honest, to get the best out of each session. Debbie provided me with some great tools to use to better understand myself and encouraged me to make time for myself which is a working progress! Thank you so much for your support!

Maria
Fertility Coaching

Debbie has a gentleness and kindness that can guide the most stubborn and resistant of souls. Her coaching has helped me have a more open conversation between my mind and my body, given that I had previously cut off one from the other. It is the One of Many way to really embrace who you are, your natural gifts, aptitudes and physicality and Debbie started me on a path that I will continue for the rest of my life. There were tears, there was laughter and there was a lot of knowing looks between us when it was clear I was resisting what was the right and ultimately joyous choices for me. Through it all she was patient, respectful and kind and I am very grateful for the help she gave me.

Anne-Marie
Life coaching

I wanted to share my experience with the coaching sessions that I recently completed with Deb. I was struggling with a lack of confidence in my new role in work, and I was constantly doubting myself and my abilities, which left me feeling stuck and unable to make progress towards my goals. Deb was able to help me identify the root causes of my self-doubt and provided me with Cycle of Creation diagram, plus the Power Type cards to help me understand what I'm going through and overcome it. I was also dealing with the difficult experience of losing someone close to me. Deb's level of empathy during these sessions was exceptional, and it is something that I will always remember. Her listening skills and ability to help me break down the cycle of my negative thoughts allowed me to gain a deeper understanding of myself. Now, I know I gained a new sense of confidence and purpose, and I felt more motivated and empowered than ever before. I started journaling every day. Literally EVERY SINGLE DAY and this has changed my life. I would highly recommend the personal development and coaching sessions with Deb to anyone who is struggling with self-doubt. I am grateful to have had the opportunity to work with Deb and am excited to continue building on the progress I have made. As Deb always says:- remember to be kind to yourself.

Samira
Workplace Coaching

Click to see a Jess' full video testimonial and more!

1:1 Coaching with Debbie

12 weeks dedicated to you. Have you ever invested in yourself like this before?

I believe every woman deserves support on her journey to motherhood. 

It is a rollercoaster that takes us from hope to grief and back again every month, and it is so easy to lose yourself along the way.

I invite you to take the time to examine the expectations you have of your mind and body, and transform how you feel about this chapter of your life.

If it is lonely and fearful in your mind right now, then this is your sign to book a free, no obligation call with me.

We'll chat and see whether working together is the right next step for you.

What is Fertility Coaching?

Fertility Coaching is a way to get 1:1 support that is tailored to your needs whilst you are Trying To Conceive. Debbie Davidson offers a series of 12 sessions to help you deal with stress, uncertainty, overwhelm, grief, and anything else that you bring.

Can Fertility Coaching help with stress?

YES - but not by just telling you to 'relax'! Debbie helps you to look at your life as a whole - career, lifestyle and relationships - so that you can be truly honest about what support you need or which boundaries need to be set. Because TTC Stress doesn't exist in isolation.

Is Fertility Coaching therapy?

No, fertility coaching is not therapy. We won't be 'digging around' in the past. Instead, we will focus on helping you move forwards in a way that supports your hope to get pregnant. Debbie will talk to you about additional support if anything comes up that is beyond the scope of coaching.

Can I have Fertility Coaching alongside IVF?

Yes - among other things, coaching can help you to prepare for appointments so that you get the information you need.

You should also be offered counselling by your IVF clinic (this is a national guideline).

What if I feel ashamed or overwhelmed?

Feeling overwhelmed by the whole experience of Trying to Conceive is very common, because there is so much conflicting advice around us.

There is no need to feel ashamed - Debbie will provide a safe space for you to explore what you are feeling. The sessions are confidential and dedicated to you.

Many women say that it is easier to talk to Debbie than to their friends and family, because she has personal experience of the journey, and because she is separate from their day-to-day life.

Do I need to be struggling badly to seek Fertility Coaching?

No - there’s no ‘minimum level’ of struggling that you need to reach before looking into Fertility Coaching.

Debbie’s support can help at any stage.

If you are unsure, book a free call to chat with Debbie and see what your next steps might be.

Will we talk about ... sex?

Only if you want to!

Sex and intimacy are obviously a huge part of Trying to Conceive, but Fertility Coaching is also a space where you can look at your life as a whole.

And...if tracking ovulation and planning sex is impacting your relationship, Debbie’s coaching tools will help. It will be up to you to decide how to implement the ideas!