This event might not be for you
04/06/26
I shared this week on my Instagram and Facebook pages that I will be at an in-person event that is likely to be a bit confrontational for most of my audience.
Because it is a baby-centred event.
I know that this is an event where I am unlikely to meet women who are trying to conceive their first child, because I would never have chosen to put myself in that space before having my own daughters.
That might be from some ingrained fear of "jinxing it", or perhaps just because it would have been too painful to be around that many businesses, parents and babies, when a baby of my own was all I wanted. But I know that I wouldn't have been there, and so, honestly, I don't expect other 'first timers' to be there either.
So why am I going this week?
Because the psychological turmoil of Trying To Conceive isn't just confined to first time around.
Whether your first conception was speedy or took longer, Secondary Infertility can appear, seemingly out of nowhere, when you try to add to your family.
And to a certain extent it makes sense - as a partnership you may now be stretched for energy, time, and opportunities for intimacy. But that logic doesn't really calm down the part of your brain that is comparing this phase of 'Trying' to last time, and it doesn't soothe the hope that you want to welcome a sibling for your child(ren).
This 'second time' rollercoaster was what brought one of my first ever clients to me.
Lovely Jess recorded a video testimonial for me last year, which you can watch HERE or read the transcript HERE.
For the TL;DR - we worked together when she was 3-4 months into trying for her second child, but was already finding the process to be emotionally draining, and not very widely understood by family who had conceived as soon as they had wanted.
We continued our coaching sessions through to her 12-week scan, and then she recorded the testimonial video at 20 weeks (and I was honoured to see a photo of her daughter when she was born last summer!)
So this is why I'll be a stallholder at an event that isn't right for 50% of my audience - because unfortunately conceiving your second isn't guaranteed to be as easy as your first, and I believe that everyone deserves support if they need it.
And, if you are Trying for your first child, I'm available on Instagram, Facebook or LinkedIn, and my calendar is open for you to book in a free chat, where we can explore whether coaching support is the right next step for you.
If you ever find out about an in-person event around Somerset that you think would be the right fit for me, whether it is baby-focused or not, please do let me know!
